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By Fr. Victor Feltes

From the beginning of creation, God has made us male and female. Male and female are a foundational difference in our human nature. Though equal in dignity, the two sexes are not the same. We do not think about it much, but it is curious that God created us with this inherent division among us. He did not have to do this. God could have created us differently. Yet this distinction, this separation between us, is what makes marriage possible.

Does marriage divide us? Does marriage separate people? What do I mean? Well, like Jesus says, the man and woman leave father and mother for each other. There is a leaving of a previous family to form a new one. And because of marriage, both bride and groom forsake all others. In saying “yes” to one other person the newlywed is saying “no” to hundreds of millions of others. Marriage is an exclusive and binding relationship that separates a man and woman from having the same relationship with all others. A blinkered person could look at men and women and only see opposition. One could deconstruct marriage and denounce it as discriminatory and divisive. But these strange perspectives would not see the fullness of reality, the beauty of what God is doing.

Derek and Jocelyn, I doubt you feel today like you are abandoning your families. Rather, you are becoming parts of each other’s families even as you form a distinct new family of your own. And I very much doubt that you, Derek and Jocelyn, are thinking today about how getting married cuts off your dating options. Instead, you are experiencing joy in becoming more perfectly one with your beloved.

As a man and a woman, God made you for each other. And the unity you can experience together is described by Jesus as two becoming one such that you “are no longer two but one flesh [one body].” Marriage unites human beings and the human family. And here is the greater wonder: all men and women are made for union with God, who is supremely Other. And holy marriage offers both an image and foretaste of the loving harmony with God in Heaven.

In receiving this Sacrament of Marriage your union becomes more than natural. By cooperating with grace you become a living icon of the marriage of Jesus Christ the Bridegroom with the Church his Bride. You can tap into the love they express and give to each other, loving beyond your human strength. “Therefore,” Jesus says, “what God has joined together, no human being must separate.” Derek and Jocelyn, and every married person here: do not disregard or fail to realize what is possible in your sacramental bond. Invite God to perfect your love, for each other, for himself, and for all.

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