By Fr. Victor Feltes
Verna was born in 1919 and grew up during the Great Depression. Like many who survived that national trauma, Verna had a tendency to keep and value everything. Always frugal and never borrowing, when she would go along on local bank-sponsored trips to the casino, she would return home with her free, unopened roll of quarters. What do we value in this life and how do we let go?
Verna fell in love and married Vernon in 1943, and their love was fruitful in their children. They were married some 40 years, and then Verna live as a widow some 40 years more. Verna taught in many rural schools, beginning in the days when stove fires had to be tended and water had to be carried in to teach eight grades together in one room. Going into the 1970s, just when Verna thought she had retired, a carload of nuns came to her house begging her to teach at St. Paul’s School. For love of God and neighbor, Verna changed her plans and taught for a couple years more.
Verna has lived her Catholic faith. She was one of St. Jude’s founding members, having worshiped at Mass in a New Auburn garage until the church was built in 1965. Almost 40 years later, when St. Jude’s Parish was suppressed Verna merged into St. Paul’s Parish as well. She was always faithful to Sunday Mass, to adoring our Lord in his Eucharist. And when she could no longer attend Mass in person she would watch Christ’s sacrifice on television – and her family learned not to call her during the service.
Verna drove a car into her 90s. Eventually, she made the decision to quit driving on her own, because of low visibility. The problem wasn’t her eyesight, her eyesight was fine — it was that she could no longer see over the steering wheel. In old age, her heart began to fail. When she became in need of a pacemaker at age 99, she had a decision to make. Her doctor asked her, “Do you want to see 100?” She considered and discerned and answered, “Yeah, let’s do it. I want to see 100.” Verna would live on this earth to age 105. She passed away one week ago, about half an hour after receiving the Last Rites. She was finally ready to let go.
St. Paul writes, “The One who raised the Lord Jesus will raise us also with Jesus… Therefore, we are not discouraged; rather, although our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this momentary light affliction is producing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison…” Sometimes older people, perhaps fatigued by their burdens, have said to me, “I don’t know why I’m still here. Why doesn’t God just take me?” I tell them, “If you are still living here on this earth, it is because God is doing things in you, or through you, or both.”
Jesus tells us, “Do not let your hearts be troubled. You have faith in God; have faith also in me. In my Father’s house there are many dwelling places. …I am going to prepare a place for you… [and] I will come back again and take you to myself, so that where I am you also may be.” St. Paul adds, “We know that if our earthly dwelling, a tent, should be destroyed, we have a building from God, a dwelling not made with hands, eternal in Heaven.”
Jesus Christ is not only preparing a place for us above, he is preparing you and me for that place while we are still down here. Through our labors, our sufferings, and our sacrifices, he is growing us in virtue, devotion, and love for God and one another. Remember that God values each of us and he is loath to give up any of us. So pray for Verna, but be happy and consoled, that today she is headed home for Thanksgiving.

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