By Deacon Dick Kostner
These words of Jesus in today’s gospel spell out a wedding gift to Riley and Emily that enables them to live out a life together of happiness not only in this life but also an eternal life with Jesus and the children of the creator of happiness, in the kingdom of God. To Riley and Emily, your Father in heaven tells you today, to listen to His Son and you will find eternal happiness.
These words of Jesus will not eliminate for you pain and suffering in this life but it will allow you endure the misfortunes that all human beings will encounter in an imperfect world. I have spent in my life many hours of prayer asking the Father to share with me his gift of wisdom, so today I will share my thoughts on what it means to follow the Eleventh Commandment Jesus gave us to “Love as I have loved you.”
Oh, it may seem like an easy task when you face each other today for you love one another and feel that you have found the “perfect” spouse to spend a lifetime with, but I must burst that bubble and share with you some wisdom and the fact is that there exists no human being that is “perfect.” To be human is to be imperfect. You might try and fool yourself into thinking you’re perfect, but time will prove you wrong. Trust me when I tell you that God programmed spouses to remind you that you are not perfect. All we have to do is look at our Bible readings and we will find that our first pope, St. Peter, thought he was perfect and would never turn against his friend, Jesus, but guess what happened; he was put to the test and failed not once but three times in saying he did not know Jesus.
We all have fears that we will encounter in life, such as job failures; broken friendships; illnesses; and yes that big one, deaths that we must experience and live through. How in the world can we love someone who hates us? Answer—Ask Jesus. How can we overcome the feeling we get when someone we love, does something to us that causes us to wonder if they really care about my feelings? Ask Jesus. How do we have love for a God that allows his only son to go through pain and suffering and yes even death without offering help? Ask Jesus. And how about the big one why would anyone be willing to surrender their life for someone that is not a friend or for someone who not only dislikes you but hates you? Ask Jesus.
Riley and Emily, I know you really enjoy hunting as I do. But I will share with you some wisdom that I discovered recently that made me appreciate animals more to the point that I enjoy watching them teach me how to love, more than I enjoy pursuing them in the field. Recently, I watched a program on Paramount entitled “1883” about early settlers making there way to Oregon to find a new life. On their way, they were confronted with a shortage of food and one of the travelers set out with his young son who was about ten years of age to hunt for some food. They came upon some deer and the father allowed and taught his son how to aim his rifle and acquire his first kill which was a nice buck. After the kill the father took some of the blood of the deer and smeared it on his sons face and told him that this deer gave up its life so that they might live so its important that hunters express their thanks to animals killed for providing us with food, by saying “thanks.” He then told his son to say “thanks” to the deer, which he did.
This stuck in my mind and I thought about how Jesus gave up his earthly life and his friends whom he loved, so that we might live and how that mirrors our directive from him to “Love as he has loved us.” It also opened my eyes to how all of God’s creation has that same vocation, to give of oneself so that someone or something else can live even if it means giving up your life. Some times this isn’t easy but its worth it to know that God has blessed you with a spouse. Riley and Emily, God has given you another set of hands, feet, heart, and mind to consult with and care for you when something breaks on you and you are hurting and who will lovingly remind you that you are not perfect when we get out of hand. I learned this first hand when I had my knees replaced and Barb babysat me.
I also would recommend that, as that young man in the episode did, to give thanks to your spouse for their gift to you of their lives. I would also encourage that you, as a couple, at least once each week to give thanks to Jesus by attending his Mass, receiving the Living Bread, and thanking him for giving up his life so that you two may live a life of happiness not only in this world but also Everlasting Life in the Kingdom of God. Giving thanks acknowledges are pledge to Jesus to love as he has loved us. Now let’s celebrate the “Love as I have loved you” Sacrament of Marriage, where Riley and Emily will pledge their love for one another and become one in being through the love of the Father.
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