Archive for September 11th, 2023

Reconciling with Another

September 11, 2023

23rd Sunday in Ordinary Time
By Fr. Chinnappan Pelavendran

Groups of priests were on the way to the bishop’s house, for a meeting. On their way, they stopped for a quick meal and then continued their trip. After traveling for an hour, one of the priests realized that he had left his glasses in the restaurant. When the senior priest came to know this, he was very angry. However, they had no choice. They had to return to the restaurant to get his glasses. All the way back, the senior priest complained. When they arrived at the restaurant, the priest got out of the car and hurried inside, the senior priest called out to him and said, “You might as well get my wallet and my credit card.” Nobody is perfect. We are all human and have our own weaknesses and mistakes. We are sinners. This is the reality of our human nature. Even so, we are called to help one another on the road to salvation. Why? Because God wants everyone to be saved.

God wants everyone to be saved. He does not desire the death of a sinner; as He says in the book of the Prophet Ezekiel: “Do I find pleasure in the death of the wicked? Or do I not rejoice when they turn from their evil way and live?” (Ez 18:23) That is why today’s readings invite us to fraternal correction. Fraternal correction is how to correct our brothers and sisters and bring them back to the path of salvation.

We know that God is love. Every act that he does is an act of love. He cannot do other than love. We only know this wonderful truth because the Second Person of the Blessed Trinity became incarnate in Jesus Christ to show us what love really is. Love himself walked among us as a man, a real presence in the world, eating and drinking, speaking and listening, laughing and crying, teaching and healing, and ultimately suffering, dying, and rising to reconcile the world to the Father. This is how we know the depth of God’s love.

The first reading and the gospel give us insights into what it means for us to love our brothers and sisters. God openly tells Ezekiel that he has made him a “watchman.” God knows that most of the people are not listening to His voice. Therefore, He sent Ezekiel to carry His word to them. If the Prophet Ezekiel does not do it, the people will suffer for their own sins. In the gospel, Jesus gives us a similar instruction. If a brother sins against one of them, the disciple must take steps to tell the one who wronged him, and try to bring him back.

Listening is the key to healing and reconciliation. Listening works both ways. God listens to our prayers but we need also to listen to Him. The flock listens to the shepherd, and the shepherd listens to the flock. In the area of fraternal correction, we need to listen to each other first. Each one has a different background and each of us has a story to tell. The best part of our reading is that when we come together to solve a problem with our brothers or sisters, we must feel the presence of God in our midst. Before Jesus was born, He was given the name “Emmanuel,” which means, “God is with us.” In today’s reading, He says “Where two or three are gathered together in my name, there I am in the midst of them.” Before He ascended into heaven, He promised to be with His people until the end of time. So, we are always assured of His constant presence.

Correcting the mistakes of one another means helping one another to grow in faith, hope, and love. It is our responsibility to make sure that each brother and sister lives in harmony with one another. We must always remember that our community, our church, is a manifestation of God’s Kingdom on earth.

‘Keep My Commandments & Love as I Love You’ — The Riley Henneman & Emily Holloway Wedding

September 11, 2023

By Deacon Dick Kostner

These words of Jesus in today’s gospel spell out a wedding gift to Riley and Emily that enables them to live out a life together of happiness not only in this life but also an eternal life with Jesus and the children of the creator of happiness, in the kingdom of God. To Riley and Emily, your Father in heaven tells you today, to listen to His Son and you will find eternal happiness.

These words of Jesus will not eliminate for you pain and suffering in this life but it will allow you endure the misfortunes that all human beings will encounter in an imperfect world. I have spent in my life many hours of prayer asking the Father to share with me his gift of wisdom, so today I will share my thoughts on what it means to follow the Eleventh Commandment Jesus gave us to “Love as I have loved you.”

Oh, it may seem like an easy task when you face each other today for you love one another and feel that you have found the “perfect” spouse to spend a lifetime with, but I must burst that bubble and share with you some wisdom and the fact is that there exists no human being that is “perfect.” To be human is to be imperfect. You might try and fool yourself into thinking you’re perfect, but time will prove you wrong. Trust me when I tell you that God programmed spouses to remind you that you are not perfect. All we have to do is look at our Bible readings and we will find that our first pope, St. Peter, thought he was perfect and would never turn against his friend, Jesus, but guess what happened; he was put to the test and failed not once but three times in saying he did not know Jesus.

We all have fears that we will encounter in life, such as job failures; broken friendships; illnesses; and yes that big one, deaths that we must experience and live through. How in the world can we love someone who hates us? Answer—Ask Jesus. How can we overcome the feeling we get when someone we love, does something to us that causes us to wonder if they really care about my feelings? Ask Jesus. How do we have love for a God that allows his only son to go through pain and suffering and yes even death without offering help? Ask Jesus. And how about the big one why would anyone be willing to surrender their life for someone that is not a friend or for someone who not only dislikes you but hates you? Ask Jesus.

Riley and Emily, I know you really enjoy hunting as I do. But I will share with you some wisdom that I discovered recently that made me appreciate animals more to the point that I enjoy watching them teach me how to love, more than I enjoy pursuing them in the field. Recently, I watched a program on Paramount entitled “1883” about early settlers making there way to Oregon to find a new life. On their way, they were confronted with a shortage of food and one of the travelers set out with his young son who was about ten years of age to hunt for some food. They came upon some deer and the father allowed and taught his son how to aim his rifle and acquire his first kill which was a nice buck. After the kill the father took some of the blood of the deer and smeared it on his sons face and told him that this deer gave up its life so that they might live so its important that hunters express their thanks to animals killed for providing us with food, by saying “thanks.” He then told his son to say “thanks” to the deer, which he did.

This stuck in my mind and I thought about how Jesus gave up his earthly life and his friends whom he loved, so that we might live and how that mirrors our directive from him to “Love as he has loved us.” It also opened my eyes to how all of God’s creation has that same vocation, to give of oneself so that someone or something else can live even if it means giving up your life. Some times this isn’t easy but its worth it to know that God has blessed you with a spouse. Riley and Emily, God has given you another set of hands, feet, heart, and mind to consult with and care for you when something breaks on you and you are hurting and who will lovingly remind you that you are not perfect when we get out of hand. I learned this first hand when I had my knees replaced and Barb babysat me.

I also would recommend that, as that young man in the episode did, to give thanks to your spouse for their gift to you of their lives. I would also encourage that you, as a couple, at least once each week to give thanks to Jesus by attending his Mass, receiving the Living Bread, and thanking him for giving up his life so that you two may live a life of happiness not only in this world but also Everlasting Life in the Kingdom of God. Giving thanks acknowledges are pledge to Jesus to love as he has loved us. Now let’s celebrate the “Love as I have loved you” Sacrament of Marriage, where Riley and Emily will pledge their love for one another and become one in being through the love of the Father.