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The Cost of Unforgiveness

September 12, 2026

23rd Sunday in Ordinary Time
By Fr. Victor Feltes

In Jesus’ parable today, a servant owes his king an extraordinary debt. Our English translation obscures the amount but in the original Greek text it is 10,000 silver talents, with each talent being about 75 pounds of silver. In the ancient world, it would take a day laborer more than 150,000 years to earn that much from wages. That’s an amount akin to something like seven billion dollars today. How could a servant get himself into a hole of debt that deep? How wealthy would a king have to be to be owed so massive a debt? It is an amount unrepayable for any ordinary person, but this servant’s king is very rich in compassion. The servant pleads and his lord has pity. He forgives the man’s entire loan and lets him go.

Now this forgiven servant was a lender himself. One of his fellow servants owed him (in the original Greek) 100 denarii. That’s 100 days’ wages in the ancient world, something like $15,000 today. That’s not nothing but it’s a much smaller amount than seven billion dollars. The newly debt-free man seeks out this fellow servant and starts choking him while demanding, “Pay back what you owe!” Despite his neighbor’s pleading for patient mercy, the forgiven servant confines that man to debtors’ prison until he should pay back his debt in full.

Now their fellow servants are deeply troubled to see this and report the situation to the king and master of them all. The king summons that unforgiving servant and pronounces a swift judgment: “You wicked servant! I forgave you your entire debt because you begged me to. Should you not have had pity on your fellow servant, as I had pity on you?” And then in anger, the unforgiving servant is thrown into debtors’ prison until he should pay back his debt in full.

Jesus tells us this parable and then declares: “So will my heavenly Father do to you, unless each of you forgives your brother from your heart.” Therefore this is a parable about God and us. The king in this parable represents God. And the servant, whose unrepayable debt to the king will only be forgiven if he forgives his neighbor, represents you and me.

God is our King to whom we owe everything. He is all-good and deserving of all our love. So when we sin in rebellion against him it creates a debt we cannot repay ourselves. But thanks be to God, forgiveness is offered through Jesus Christ when we repent and seek mercy. However, Jesus notes elsewhere in St. Matthew’s Gospel: “If you forgive others their transgressions, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, neither will your Father forgive your transgressions.” “Our Father, who art in Heaven,” will “forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” Now some folks feel alarm at this teaching because they fear they cannot forgive. Typically they believe that they cannot forgive because they think “forgiveness” means things it doesn’t.

Forgiving is not the same thing as forgetting. You can’t make yourself have amnesia and forget; you might remember someone else’s misdeed for the rest of your life. Forgiveness doesn’t mean saying what a sinner did wasn’t serious or wrong. If the sin committed was gravely wrong, to say otherwise would be untrue. Forgiveness doesn’t mean the offense no longer hurts. Only grace and time can heal some wounds, but we can still forgive while feeling pain. Forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean pretending nothing happened. Sometimes going back to the way things were before would be imprudent or even wrong. But you can forgive someone even before they can be trusted. You can forgive even before they are sorry for what they did. Because forgiveness means loving someone despite the wrongs that they have done. Jesus did this from the Cross. He said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do,” while he was still in terrible pain and before they were sorry.

Is there someone you are worried that you haven’t forgiven? Then pray for them, since you cannot hate someone and pray for them, willing their greatest good, at the same time. Is there someone you find it hard to pray for? Then that’s whom you should pray for, for their sake and for yours. If you reach the pearly gates and see someone inside whom you hate, you will have to wait outside until you can love that person whom the Lord has reconciled to himself. Forgiveness loves someone despite their sins like Jesus loves us. Jesus came to reconcile us to one another and to the Father. So have mercy. Jesus heals the wounds of sin and division. So have mercy. And Jesus intercedes for us with our Father. So have mercy on others, too.

Forgiving others is crucial (and maybe easier than you think.)

September 12, 2020

24th Sunday in Ordinary Time

In Jesus’ parable today, a servant owes his king a huge debt, more precisely (in the original Greek) 10,000 silver talents. This was an amount equal to 150,000 years’ worth of labor in the ancient world, something akin to $4.5 billion today. It’s an unrepayable debt, but the servant’s king is rich in compassion; he feels pity and forgives the man’s entire loan.

Now, this servant was a creditor himself, and one of his fellow servants owed him a significant but much smaller amount, literally 100 denarii, which was 100 days’ wages back then. Think of it like $10,000. The newly debt-free man sought out this fellow servant and started to choke him, demanding, “Pay back what you owe!” Despite pleading for patient mercy, that first servant put the second into debtors’ prison until he should pay back his debt.

Now when other servants witnessed all of this they felt deeply troubled by it. They went and reported the whole situation to the king and master of them all. The king summoned the unforgiving servant and pronounced a swift judgment: “You wicked servant! I forgave you your entire debt because you begged me to. Should you not have had pity on your fellow servant, as I had pity on you?” Then, in anger, his master threw him into debtors’ prison as well until he should pay back his whole debt.

The king was clearly angry. One rarely-considered reason for his anger is that all of these servants were his own. The 100 denarii debtor suffered by being tossed into prison, his fellow servants suffered from witnessing the scandal, and all of this impacted the king personally. Their distress affects him deeply, for the king is compassionate, but it affected him in another way as well: his servants being detained or disturbed by this unhappy affair kept them from doing his important work. They’re all his servants, but the actions of one impeded the others from freely and fully fulfilling his will.

Of course, the king and master in this parable represents God. Who on earth forgives someone’s $4.5 billion personal debt like our Lord forgives the debt of our sins? And we are each his servants, like St. Paul says, “whether we live or die, we are the Lord’s.” So, if we are to learn a lesson from the servant whose great debt was forgiven, how can we avoid imprisoning or impeding our fellow servants? Through merciful love.

When someone is angry with you, yells at you, or criticizes you, when you know someone dislikes or despises you, how does that affect you? Does your tension and anxiety go up? Do you think about that person and the situation obsessively? Do you run scenarios in your mind about what you wish you had said or done previously, or what you’ll do the next time you cross paths? Do you avoid that person, or the places they could be, and feel uncomfortable in their presence? Do you gossip to others about your ongoing bitter conflict, thereby spreading the scandal to them? If so, then you’re being imprisoned, partially impeded in your peaceful service of our Lord.

We can easily have this effect on others by how we treat them. And cherishing and nurturing our own anger makes a prisoner of yourself to anger. When you experience some slight or shortcoming from another, be gracious. Maybe just let it be; let it pass. Give their actions a most-generous interpretation. Mistakes are more common than malevolence. And you yourself have bad days, too.

Sometimes, though, we need to address matters for the common good. As we heard about last week, love sometimes calls us to do fraternally correction. But when we do it, let’s do it with a kindly, gentle spirit, sharing the truth in love that they might be able to receive it. Merciful love is necessary to keep each other out of prison, the prison of unrepentance and the prison unforgiveness.

In the Our Father, we pray, “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” Jesus teaches his disciples, “If you do not forgive others, neither will your Father forgive your transgressions.” And at the end of today’s parable, Jesus warns us that our fate will be like that of the unforgiving servant ‘unless you forgive your brother from your heart.’ Now many Christians find this teaching deeply disconcerting. They’re troubled because they believe they just can’t forgive. But I usually find they think this because they imagine forgiveness means something it’s not.

Forgiving is not the same thing as forgetting. You can’t force yourself to have amnesia and forget. You might remember the misdeed for the rest of your life. And forgiveness doesn’t mean saying what someone did wasn’t serious or wrong. The offense committed may have been a grave sin and to say otherwise would be a lie. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that what someone did no longer hurts. Only grace and time can heal some wounds, but we can forgive even with lingering pains. Forgiveness doesn’t require you to pretend nothing happened. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that everything must go back to the way it was before. Forgiveness might lead to full reconciliation, but not always. You can forgive someone even before they can be trusted. You can forgive even before they are sorry for what they did. Why? Because forgiveness means loving someone despite the wrongs that they have done.

Forgiveness is loving someone despite their sins. Is there someone you’re worried that you haven’t forgiven? Then pray for them, because you can’t hate someone and pray for them at the same time. Is there someone you find it hard to pray for? Then that’s whom you should pray for, for their sake and for yours. Jesus came to reconcile us to one another and to the Father. So have mercy. Jesus works to heal the wounds of sin and division. So have mercy. And Jesus intercedes for us with our Father. So have mercy, too.

Thursday, 19th Week in Ordinary Time—Year I

August 17, 2009

Today we heard the parable of the debt-ridden servant. You and I, of course, are the first servant with the unpayable debt. The debt of our sins. And the Lord, our King, has taken the loss, upon Himself, to gratuitously forgive our debt. But, at our judgment, He will receive important testimony about how we have treated those who have owed us much lesser personal debts.

This is why some Christians pray, “forgive us our debts and we forgive our debtors,” while we pray, “forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.”

Who is it that you’re not sure you’ve forgiven?

Remember this:  To forgive another’s sin is not to say that the wrong wasn’t wrong, and it is not trying convince yourself that the hurt doesn’t hurt. If you can pray for the good of your offenders, you have a forgiving heart.